Four Gifts of Love® — Online Institute

1.)

The emotional need for honesty and openness is met when a spouse shares accurate information about his/her thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, personal history, daily activities and plans for the future.

a.) true

b.) false

2.)

Honesty and openness ____________.

a.) can fulfill an emotional need

b.) provides a sense of security

c.) may be a need for one spouse and not the other

d.) all of the above

3.)

According to Dr. Harley, privacy is a basic human need and should be honored in marriage.

a.) true

b.) false

4.)

Transparency is an essential ingredient in meeting the need for openness and honesty.

a.) true

b.) false

5.)

The need for physical attractiveness is usually met when a spouse is _____________.

a.) physically fit with a healthy diet and exercise

b.) wearing clothing, hair, and make-up (if female) in a way that their spouse finds appealing

c.) maintaining good physical hygiene

d.) all of the above

6.)

If partners would simply maintain a healthy diet and exercise to avoid gaining weight from year to year, most of them would remain physically attractive to each other throughout their lives.

a.) true

b.) false

7.)

Meeting the emotional need for financial support includes ____________.

a.) provision of the financial resources to house, feed, and clothe your family at a standard of living acceptable to the one with the need (providing for the needs of the family)

b.) Sacrificing (experiencing pain) for your family's wants

c.) earning enough money to provide for the needs and wants of life

d.) traveling and working hours that neglect your spouse's other emotional needs

e.) both a and b

8.)

A person has a need for financial support if he or she expects the spouse to earn a living, but does not expect him or herself to earn a living (at least while raising children).

a.) true

b.) false

9.)

The Financial Support Inventory can help couples create a budget and discuss how this need can be met.

a.) true

b.) false

10.)

Domestic support involves the creation of a __________ and ______________ home environment.

a.) safe, secure

b.) peaceful, well-managed

c.) clean, organized

d.) happy, peaceful

11.)

Domestic support means that the spouse meeting the need does all the household work.

a.) true

b.) false

12.)

You have a need for family commitment if you have a craving for your spouse's involvement in the training and development of your children. When he or she is helping to teach them important values and life skills, you feel fulfilled, and when they are neglected, you feel frustrated.

a.) true

b.) false

13.)

Childcare falls under the category of domestic support, not family commitment.

a.) true

b.) false

14.)

Meeting the need for family commitment includes _____________.

a.) educating yourself in appropriate child-training methods and discussing those methods with your spouse's enthusiastic agreement

b.) teaching your children values of cooperation and care for each other

c.) scheduling sufficient time for the moral and educational development of your children

d.) all of the above

15.)

Admiration is defined as _____________.

a.) expressing respect

b.) expressing value

c.) expressing appreciation

d.) all of the above

16.)

The need for admiration is one of the easiest needs to meet.

a.) true

b.) false

17.)

Spouses should become experts at meeting each other's emotional needs ____________.

a.) when they have time

b.) only before children arrive, then all attention should be given to the children

c.) only after they have lost their love for each other and are in crisis

d.) thoughout their lives together

18.)

If you allow someone of the opposite gender to regularly meet your most important emotional needs, you are at risk of having an affair.

a.) true

b.) false