Jennifer Harley Chalmers, PhD, and her father, Willard F. Harley, Jr., PhD, are Licensed Psychologists and marriage counselors.  For over 20 years, they have collaborated to create and improve methods that restore love to marriages.  Their primary effort has focused on the recovery of marriage following an affair (Surviving an Affair, Harley/Chalmers, Revell, 1998, 2013). 

More About Dr. Chalmers

Dr. Chalmers earned her PhD in 1991 from the University of Minnesota (Educational Psychology) and earned an M.S. from St. Cloud State University in 1988 (Psychology: Behavior Analysis). She has been a Licensed Psychologist since 1992.  

After graduation, she was employed as Student Support Director where she administered a district-wide student-support program and personally worked with over 1000 children and parents, providing conflict resolution, family change, grief, peer helper, parenting, and friendship skills groups.  As a result of working with so many struggling children from divorced homes, she made the decision to dedicate her profession to help marriages.  

This led her to co-own a Rule 29 Mental Health clinic where she was in private practice and provided supervision.  During this time, she also co-authored Surviving an Affair.

In 2001, Dr. Chalmers and her family were presented with a unique opportunity to live in the Philippines.  There she became an international speaker, with engagements in Japan, Thailand, and the Philippines.  She also co-authored Let's Get Growing Christians (Harley/Chalmers, 2003), The Four Gifts of Love® Participant's Guide: Revised and Expanded Edition (Chalmers/Harley, 2004, 2016), and The Four Gifts of Love® Class Facilitator's Guide (Chalmers, 2005, 2016).  Dr. Chalmers is currently developing online courses and resources for the Four Gifts of Love® Online Institute.

Phil and Jennifer


Dr. Chalmers and Phil, her husband of over 36 years, live in Manila, Philippines. Their immediate family includes two adult daughters and a son-in-law.

More About Dr. Harley

Dr. Harley is best known as the author of the internationally best-selling book, His Needs, Her Needs. The hard-cover American edition alone has sold over two million copies, with over 23 foreign translations. Every year, for over 30 consecutive years, more copies of this book have been sold than in each previous year.

Dr. Harley earned a PhD in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Psychologist since 1975. For the first ten years after earning his degree, he taught psychology at both the graduate and undergraduate levels. During those years, he was also a frustrated part-time marriage counselor with little success in helping couples.

In 1973, he discovered that he was not alone in his failure to save marriages—almost everyone in the marital therapy profession was also failing. So he spent the next two years designing an entirely new approach. When his success rate climbed to over 90% in 1977, he resigned from his teaching position to counsel full-time. Over the next ten years, his solo practice developed into the largest network of mental health clinics in Minnesota (thirty-two locations) with over one hundred psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, and chemical dependency counselors working with him to provide a full range of mental health services. He became the exclusive provider of mental health and chemical dependency services in ten counties and had offices in other counties as well.

One of his responsibilities was to write support materials for the clinical program he directed. He created over one hundred questionnaires and wrote numerous articles that were given to clients as part of their therapy. Among the materials he wrote was His Needs, Her Needs, which was first published in 1986. Although it was written to be a support text for his marriage counseling program, within three years it had become a national best-seller and a basic reference for marriage counselors throughout the nation to this day.

By 1988 he found himself spending almost all of his time administering his clinics, and very little time doing what he enjoyed most -- improving his marital therapy program. So he began turning his clinics over to the counselors who worked with him and the ownership of his last clinic was transferred in 1993. Since then, he has written 18 more books and hundreds of articles. 


Bill and Joyce at the Radio Station


He and his wife, Joyce, host a daily radio call-in show, Marriage Builders Radio which can be heard on A smartphone app is also available for this radio program on most phone types.

He and Joyce have been married for over 58 years and live in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. They have two adult children, who are now working with them as marriage coaches, four grandchildren, and five great-grandchildren! Their son, Steve Harley, is also the webmaster,  administrator,  and co-developer of the internationally followed, a site that receives over 450,000 unique visitors and over one billion hits per month.