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Gift of Care

a reminder app for reviewing your spouse's top five emotional needs and specific behaviors that meet those needs.

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Description

Your spouse honestly tells you his or her needs and specific, helpful suggestions to meet those needs and deposit the most love units into the Love Bank. You intently listen and make genuine promises...but then you forget this important information the next day or months later.

Isn't it sad that our memories aren't perfect, especially for areas of life that mean the most to us.

Developing your skills of caring for your spouse takes practice and repetition, but first it takes remembering. This app was created to help you remember a very important part of your lifestyle...specific ways to give your Gift of Care by meeting your spouse's most important emotional needs. We hope this will help you develop your need-meeting expertise.

Once you have tried the Gift of Care app, please send us your feedback. If you have concerns and/or advice, your comments would be very much appreciated so we can make improvements. If you offer praise, your comments may be used on this site, without identifying information.

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Gift of Protection

a reminder app for reviewing your own Love Busters and specific, alternative behaviors to replace the Love Buster.

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Description

Your spouse honestly tells you the Love Busters that cause him or her unhappiness and withdrawal love units from the Love Bank. You intently listen and make genuine promises to have a no tolerance for your thoughtless behaviors...but then you forget this important information the next day or months later.

Isn't it sad that our memories aren't perfect, especially for areas of life that mean the most to us.

Developing and sustaining your skills of protecting your spouse takes practice and repetition, but first it takes remembering. This app was created to help you remember a very important part of your lifestyle...specific ways to give your Gift of Protection by following a plan to eliminate your own Love Busters. We hope this will help you develop your protecting expertise.

Once you have tried the Gift of Protection app, please send us your feedback. If you have concerns and/or advice, your comments would be very much appreciated so we can make improvements. If you offer praise, your comments may be used on this site, without identifying information.

Please send your feedback to supportteam1@fourgiftsoflove.org

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Gift of Honesty

offers help with honesty by using the phrase "I'd love it if (specific, desired behavior)" or "I love it when (specific, desired behavior)" or giving a rating of 1-5. Then a text can be sent to your spouse with that Gift of Honesty.

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Description

How can you tell your spouse that you didn't like something he or she just did (i.e., a Love Buster) without using Love Busters yourself?

Or how can you remember to tell your spouse that you really like what he or she just did?

Or what if your spouse asks you how you feel about something and you don't know how to respond honestly?

The phrases developed by Jennifer Harley Chalmers in the early 1990s have helped many couples effectively give their Gift of Honesty. This apps helps you use those phrases, "I'd love it if you would...", "I love it when you...", and "I rank...a (1-5)." After a desired, specific behavior is typed into the appropriate phrase, then you can send that text to your spouse...your Gift of Honesty.

Once you have tried the Gift of Honesty app, please send us your feedback. If you have concerns and/or advice, your comments would be very much appreciated so we can make improvements. If you offer praise, your comments may be used on this site, without identifying information.

Please send your feedback to supportteam1@fourgiftsoflove.org

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Gift of Time

offers a tracking of daily, undivided attention time with your spouse. It also gives a history of time to see if you are meeting the goal of 15 hours per week together.

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Description

The Gift of Time is a commitment to the following goals:
Amount: 15 hours/week
Privacy: Undivided attention, without friends and family.
Objectives: Focus on meeting the needs of Affection, Sexual Fulfillment, Intimate Conversation, and Recreational Companionship

Problem...after a week goes by, we can't remember if we met our goals of 15 hours, undivided attention, and objectives.
Solution...this app helps you record your undivided attention time with your spouse each day. It also allows you to record what needs were being met during that time and if there was undivided attention. There is an additional option to schedule a weekly Gift of Time review.

By recording your daily time together, you can see if you are fulfilling your commitment of giving the Gift of Time or if improvements in scheduling are needed.

Once you have tried the Gift of Time app..., please send us your feedback. If you have concerns and/or advice, your comments would be very much appreciated so we can make improvements. If you offer praise, your comments may be used on this site, without identifying information.

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E2: Explore and Engage

E2 combines original-photographic images and thought-provoking questions about the images for couples to EXPLORE deeper and ENGAGE their conversation on a more intimate level.

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What is E2? More than words, images seem to retrieve memories, emotions, and thoughts on a deeper, more intimate level. E2 combines original-photographic images and thought-provoking questions about the images for couples to EXPLORE deeper and ENGAGE their conversation on a more intimate level.

For example, when you are on a date, you can simply look at the picture and answer the question together. If you want to use another question or picture, just click the "Reload Icon" It’s that simple! With 50 images and eight questions randomly generated, E2 offers many opportunities to EXPLORE and ENGAGE, increasing the honesty and openness in your relationship, allowing you to give the Gift of Honesty.

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WHY? Four Gifts of Love^®

When couples are first learning this Four Gifts of Love^® lifestyle, there may be times of inner questioning, "WHY am I doing this new lifestyle?" For those times, this app offers motivational phrases to help you remember the MANY reasons WHY.

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People trying to lose 100 lbs after living an unhealthy lifestyle for years often need motivational help and encouragement to get them through those times when they don't FEEL like exercising or eating right. There will be times they ask, "WHY am I doing this exercise and diet plan?"

Similarly, when couples are learning a new lifestyle of care, protection, honesty, and time (the Four Gifts of Love^®), often after years of thoughtlessness and neglect, there will be times they need help getting through the persistent, inner questioning of "WHY am I doing this new lifestyle?"

In those moments, many will need help to remind themselves about the life-IMPACTING WHY answers. That is WHY this app was designed: To hopefully motivate and offer inspirational comments as couples create a new, thoughtful lifestyle of care, protection, honesty, and time.

Over 25 phrases are directed to answer the question, "WHY am I doing this new lifestyle?" These phrases are randomly generated, but users have the ability to pick their favorite phrases to be generated first when the app is opened.

So get started answering the question WHY?

Let's Negotiate

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Negotiation in marriage is especially important if spouses want to make thoughtful adjustments throughout life and avoid a lifestyle of maladjustment. Yet, for many, hearing the words, "Let's negotiate," can create feelings of worry or fear. Why? Well, maybe our past experiences have led us to being “strong-armed” into reluctant decisions, or decisions were simply compromises, with neither person getting what s/he wanted.

That’s what makes negotiation in marriage with the Policy of Joint Agreement different. This policy guides couples to use a process of problem solving where there is mutual enthusiastic agreement; two wisdoms coming together in unity to make the BEST decision!

The Let’s Negotiate mobile app was designed to guide you through this four-step process:

1) Agree to keep the process pleasant and safe
2) Share perspectives
3) Brainstorm with abandon
4) Choose a solution with the Policy of Joint Agreement

Just a reminder: the Policy of Joint Agreement is to never do anything without a mutual enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse. For more information about this process, please read He Wins, She Wins (2013, Harley, Revell).

So…let’s negotiate!

Four Gifts of Love® Class Assignment Planner

The Four Gifts of Love® Class Assignment Planner was created to help you schedule and keep track of assignment completion for either the online or group format.

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Description

The Four Gifts of Love® Class Assignment Planner was created to help you schedule and keep track of assignment completion for either the online or group format. This mobile app will help you not only schedule your assignments, but it also allows for notification to remind you about a scheduled assignment.

This is only one of the mobile app resources created for you to help support your Four Gifts of Love® lifestyle.

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Download now for FREE!

Available for Android & iOS

Gift of Care

Gift of Protection

Gift of Honesty

Gift of Time

E2: Explore and Engage

WHY? Four Gifts of Love®

Let's Negotiate

Four Gifts of Love® Class Assignment Planner

WHY? Four Gifts of Love^®