Four Gifts of Love® — Online Institute

1.)

The Policy of Joint Agreement is a rule that guarantees mutual thoughtfulness when followed.

a.) true

b.) false

2.)

The Policy of Joint Agreement forces couples to make mutually compatible decisions and forces couples to think about each other’s feelings.

a.) true

b.) false

3.)

A spouse that follows the Policy of Joint Agreement asks the other spouse how he or she would feel about an activity before it’s planned and executed.

a.) true

b.) false

4.)

If a couple is watching TV and one says that he or she doesn’t like what is being watched and wants to change the channel to another program, what would the correct response be if following the Policy of Joint Agreement?

a.) change the channel immediately, because you are to do whatever the other spouse wants to do

b.) remind the unhappy spouse that since they already agreed to watch the show currently being watched, they should follow through on their agreement

c.) maintain a pleasant and safe environment while discussing the options for alternative shows, but turning the TV off if an agreement cannot be achieved

d.) none of the above

5.)

Those who struggle to follow the Policy of Joint Agreement tend to engage in the Love Buster, _____________.

a.) selfish demands

b.) annoying habits

c.) angry outbursts

d.) disrespectful judgments

e.) independent behavior

f.) dishonesty

6.)

To achieve the Policy of Joint Agreement on an issue, a spouse must _____________.

a.) ignore his or her feelings and do what the other spouse wants to do

b.) ignore the problem completely and know the issue will be resolved over time

c.) use a process of negotiation until a solution achieves mutual and enthusiastic agreement

d.) make a compromise that both spouses consider fair, but are not enthusiastic about

7.)

The four guidelines for successful negotiation are (1) agreeing to make the negotiation pleasant and safe, (2) discussing each spouse’s perspective and interests with mutual respect, (3) brainstorming options that take each spouse’s perspectives and interests into account, and (4) choosing a solution from the brainstorming options that meet the conditions of mutual and enthusiastic agreement.

a.) true

b.) false

8.)

A husband and wife in love tend to have few conflicts (differences in opinion).

a.) true

b.) false